We all take a lot of steps in our lives. Steps in the right direction, steps in the wrong direction. One step forward, two steps back.
In life we also take different steps in relationships. You either take steps forward together, or take steps apart, alone. And in the event that you're taking those steps apart and alone you just have to remember that every person who broke your heart just brought you one step closer to the person who will protect and cherish your heart. Unfortunately, some of us have a higher staircase to climb than others, but once we get to the top we all appreciate the climb just the same.
I'd like to say that life is funny like that, but it's not. 'Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.' It throws lessons at you all day, every day, and whether you choose to succeed or fail miserably is up to you. You can take one hit and stay down and feel sorry for yourself of you can get up and fight to win.
You can take those steps forward regardless of the terrain or you can turn around and retrace your steps back to where you started because you're scared or tired or just too lazy to work for what you want.
Bottom line is that it's up to you.
“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”-Charles R. Swindoll
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Let me be perfectly clear...
I'm tired of hearing guys complain about how women prefer assholes over nice guys. What's actually going on is that women prefer a man who is confident over someone without a set of balls. No woman wants a guy that's more sensitive than she is, who is going to cry when he sees babies and butterflies. Cockiness and confidence get mixed up pretty often, I get it. Once you get it you can stop using the excuse that women like assholes to make yourself feel better about being single. It's exhausting. Seriously. And I'm not going to stroke your ego when you're crying and complaining about it, so tell your story walking.
Aside from confidence women also like men who are thoughtful and do things simply because they were thinking of her. Being caring, compassionate, and considerate are big sellers too. The ability to hold a conversation doesn't hurt either. As a matter of fact NOT being able to hold a conversation hurts because she'll get bored. And then you'll complain that you weren't enough of an asshole for her. You poor, poor guys. Always stuck in such a vicious cycle.
And don't suffocate her. She needs space. If she doesn't need space, you should probably run because it's only a matter of time before she becomes a stalker and then... well then it's too late. If that sounds familiar, she's probably watching you right now.
Common sense. That is a big deal. No one wants to date someone who has lived under a rock for the majority of their life. No one wants to be a mother before they have kids either. I mean really, if you find yourself asking 'What's that?' often, apply for a library card and read a book. Preferably the dictionary. Start with 'A' if you're confused or overwhelmed. And if you start more than a handful of sentences IN YOUR LIFE with 'Not to sound dumb... but..." You sound dumb. You also look dumb while you say it because you have no idea what's going on.
What else... being faithful is important. Probably the most important. If you're thinking about cheating, leave or break up with whoever you're with. Save someone the extra heartache and make yourself look like less of a piece of shit.
Oh and lastly, if you're not funny, please don't try to tell jokes. If you're not funny, you're not funny. You can fake a lot of things but a sense of humor is either there or it isn't. Unfortunately, if you don't have one, you're not going to find one anywhere. And if you can't make me laugh, don't expect me to call you. That also means you shouldn't call or text me, you know, if you want to end that with any dignity.
Now, if you read this and thought 'Wow, what a bitch,' then you're an asshole and you're right on point so don't worry. Clearly, you're everything every woman wants.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Being in a relationship is hard enough on it's own without having your partner take you for granted. If you're in a relationship where you're not number one, get out. If it's bad now, it's only going to get worse and you're only going to get hurt.
If you settle, it's your own fault. And if you let your partner get away with treating you like that it'll create a pattern and you know what they say, 'A leopard can't change it's spots.'
I know we like to think that people can change, and that we can be the ones to change them, but in most situations that's not the case.
Now, if whoever you're with isn't making you number one, then turn around and walk away and make yourself number one. That person doesn't deserve you and you can do much better. There are six billion people in this world, it's going to take a few tries and a few broken hearts to find the 'one' so don't give up and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
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Saturday, July 2, 2011
"Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life."